jackthehack said:
I don't know what's wrong with people these days, minor ass puppy shiteee that's part of the normal course of life is stressful?
You need some perspective I think...
Stress is trying to figure out where the sniper is before he can adjust the windage on his scope better.
Stress is having children to feed and no money/resources till late next week.
(Contemporaneous) Stress is getting a pink slip and a foreclosure notice in the same week.
Anything less severe than the above type of categories like wedding planning, a pulled in deadline at work, moving, etc. is not stress, but rather falls into the general category of aggravation.
In your particular case, do not fail to take into account that the subconscious/subliminal part of brain isn't down with the marrying/moving plan and this is manifesting itself physically. The "gut" often knows far better about things than what we've allowed our "logical" brains to be talked into, or has talked/rationalized ITSELF into. Take some time and ponder/analyze that very seriously before burning any bridges/jumping off any cliffs, metaphorically...
Um, does real stress include waking up in the morning to find one of the family members you live with dead in their bed? Cause, that's what happened to me last year. Oh yeah, and at the same time we had my other family members threatening to commit suicide and yet another one screaming insane things at me on a daily basis and calling me worthless, while I'm trying to hold down 2 jobs and graduate from school AND take care of said people, even though they are all older than me. So yes, I know that there are worse things than moving out and getting married, but I'm not an effing robot. No one is a robot, and you can't control what gives you stress and what doesn't give you stress.
As far as your advice, moving out and getting married is the greatest thing I can do and I'm counting down the days. I'm really excited about it. But, I'm nervous about being the center of attention at the wedding and I'm nervous about financial things, but my future husband is the sweetest man I have ever met and I love him more than anything. It's just a big change.
When I started college I lost 15 pounds because I couldn't eat. It wasn't that college was a bad idea, it was just a big change, so I was naturally nervous about it.
And to all who assume we're having a big wedding... my problem is explaining to everyone that we don't want to spend lots of money and we want it to be as casual and private as possible. You would be amazed how many people act like you are a weirdo when you're a woman and you say that you don't want a fancy wedding. We are also having a fairly non-traditional wedding, and that is causing a lot of annoying comments from various family members who insist that we do what they want us to do and not what we want to do.
And by the way, when ANYONE gets married it is a big deal, no matter your gender. If you marry the wrong man, there is a lot at stake. My friend's mom married a guy who turned out to be gay, and then he became a drug addict and destroyed the lives of the entire family.
Interestingly enough, the rate of depression among married men is lower than single men, and the rate of depression among married women is higher than single women. So married men are usually happier than single guys, but it is the opposite for women.