This has been a source of contention with me. We've been married over 8 years after a 3+ year courtship. We did our engagement, wedding, and marriage very old-fashioned and traditional. I asked for my now mother-in-law's blessing before I proposed because my father-in-law died while we were dating. I did the one knee thing with the ring. She wore white and we had the big church wedding. Our first day living together was when we returned from our honeymoon. All that and her SS card still has her maiden name on it! She had to have the ring, wedding, and honeymoon but apparently my (ahem, her) last name when we do our taxes is asking to much. :icon_scratch: